By Victoria “Salt” Nickisson, Life Coach and internationally accredited Neuro-Linguitics Practitioner.
Generally, when life isn’t going according to plan or our desires, it is because of the thoughts and conversations we have with ourselves in our minds.
Never! I hear you say….well, we would loath to admit this because it would mean that we are ultimately responsible for our present state and condition.
This is a tough one to swallow, because we are well equipped with reasons to blame others and circumstances for what we are experiencing. But that were actually true, then what a sad state we would be subject to!
This comes with an interesting twist and question: Do you want control? Do you want the responsibility of the outcome of your life? Or is it easier to blame someone else – because then essentially you believe “they” must change. The truth is that whether you like it or not, you are in control and you are responsible. What you do with that control is the critical factor.
We can live in blame land, being our past, our family, circumstances currently or circumstances we were born into, our spouse…etc. the list of blame and deference is endless, but these are all lies. When we come to know this (which we already innately do) you begin the process of taking the first steps of reclaiming your life on your terms.
But here is where many get stuck.
You see, it’s not that easy. It is simple but it’s not easy. To change your belief patterns and thoughts, requires tremendous effort, discipline, high level of self-worth and a sheer tenacity within to never go back to the old self/life. You have been practicing your wrong thinking for so long, how would you know what to change or how to change it?
The patterns have been built deep into your subconscious mind and 90% of that you are not even aware of. Subsequently there are a lot psychological minefields and traps, which our ego carefully designs to keep us ‘safe’ and in our ‘status quo’ simply because fear of the new may be greater than your current pain or discomfort in your life.
We are wired to stick with familiarity. Hence the reason we usually perpetuate bad behaviours of our parents, stay in abusive relationships, abusive work environments, accept being treated poorly by friends or just simply accept failure and defeat because that’s how your life is.
Can I ask you: Are you brave enough to face the truth of your current circumstance and take back control ?
Do you want to stop wasting time on a life poorly lived?
Do you want to do something rewarding and truly fulfilling in your remaining years of your life?
I invite you to come and see me for a consultation. Let me help you take back conscious control and let me help you reconstruct your life the way you want to live it! Whether this be relevant to you in your relationships, your career, your health, your body image, or your education, a combination of these or all of these, it doesn’t matter, we can fix it.
This journey is tough to do alone and may take you years to accomplish the change that can take me a few sessions to achieve with you – provided you are dedicated to the process. You need a coach. You need an unbiased partner to clear out the debris of wrong beliefs, poor choices and show you your inner truth, your inner strength.
We are all capable of transcending our failures, pain and challenges. The problem is that we don’t necessarily believe that because we have been raised in a society or culture of absolutes, where we have been conditioned to accept our elders counsel without question, conditioned to conform and bend a break ourselves to please people in order to be accepted.
Fear of rejection by our very own, our community is a very real thing. It is an inbuilt instinct but it is not helpful in our current functioning world.
Our brains are powerful machines, which have a subconscious mind that works tirelessly to bring us what we believe if true. What are you telling it to bring you? Are you even aware of your inner dialogue? If you are aware of your thoughts ask yourself this: If you spoke to your child that way or your friends that way, would they consider you friend or foe?
As little babies we never questioned our self-worth or our ability to do anything. /our fears and lack of confidence is a learned behavior, often stemming back to very early childhood.
I would love to help you build a robust, fulfilling life driven by a powerful mind that is programed and conditioned to allow and sustain your goals and vision to live your best self.
For a consultation email: coachme@milleniapublishing.co.za
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